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My friend Sheena is studying psychology. Although it has fascinated me, I never really understood the need to analyze why people do the things they do. However as a female who has been in relationships, I cannot tell you how man times I've had words taken out of my mouth and been told 'You're to emotional.' or 'That's stupid, you shouldn't feel that way.' I have adapted to such comments by adapting a cooler attitude towards commitment and relationships in general....

Then I met Gabe.


This man single-handedly altered the perception I currently have when dealing with my own emotions. He said that no one should EVER make their significant other feel as though they are being ridiculous or discount their feelings. You are a human being. Just because you feel a certain way doesn't mean you're 'being to much of a girl.' It often times has to do with your morals and upbringing. He told me that if I am confident in the way I feel that no one, especially not him, should try and make me feel other wise. It is well within the realm of our significant others to support us and be a team.

This also however means that you shouldn't take this for granted. Yes you are allowed to feel strongly about something, but no you shouldn't use that to stomp on other people or discount THEIR feelings. Life is all about balance and if you can't see things from another perspective you are being disrespectful. Compromise is truly the way to go when making decisions. For instance: Gabe and I got into a fight. There were some choice words that were hurtful to both parties, both of us got upset and instead of discounting the other person we both stepped back, took some deep breaths and reconvened later with cool heads and talked about what happened. Neither one of us said 'That's stupid' or 'I think you're being too emotional.' It was a calm conversation and resolved without major detriment to the relationship. There was no manipulation, no head games and in the end a compromise was reached.

Yes women are emotional creatures. It is, evolutionarily speaking, what has allowed us to come this far as a species. If we just let our young go and had no emotional attachment to them, the species as a whole would die. And yes our hormones do some weird things to our way of thinking. The stereotypical 'pregnant-brain' or 'PMS moods' if you want to call them that are definitely mood swings. However, we're not these crazy, fragile, clingy, stupid, moronic, sensitive, and irrational creatures that men (and other women) make us out to be. Men also go through hormonal spurts but instead many of them scrap with their male friends or go drink, or fall of the radar and take a few days to themselves. We as women (and other men) don't go 'Oh, bro, you're to testosterone-y right now, might wanna settle down' or 'Stop being so macho dude, chill out.' It's a double standard that even other women endorse. We start thinking of ourselves as 'crazy' or 'irrational' and have to consult with other people to see if we truly are making irrational decisions or if we are justified in our way of thinking.

Long and short is to be respectful of your partner and friends and to have confidence in you're decisions. Don't let anyone (man or woman) take that from you, sometimes a decision is the only thing you truly own.

For more read here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/yashar-hedayat/a-message-to-women-from-a_1_b_958859.html?ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false